--DISC BHAVIOR--

The DISC Behavioral model describes four basic patterns, none of which is better or worse than any of the others.
Very few people are purely one type. (Most of us are a combination of types.) This description is of someone who is almost completely a D. See if it describes you or someone you know. (Again, remember it describes an extreme form of a behavior that is often much more nuanced.)

If you are a D personality type, you are concerned about RESULTS

• You enjoy solving problems, getting things done, and achieving goals.


• You want to be in charge. (You dislike being told what to do.


• You set high standards for performance (your own and other people's).


• You trust your ability to produce results.


• You enjoy challenges and competition.


• You are willing to take risks, challenge the status quo, and break the rules.


• You make decisions quickly.


• You are impatient with people who "waste time" by talking or planning, who you think are incompetent, or who resist change.


• You don't mind telling people they're wrong. You value "telling it like it is." You can be blunt.


• You bore easily.


• You get angry quickly (and you get over it quickly

You are energized by...

• Working in a fast-paced, results oriented environment
  Being in charge


• Taking on new opportunities and challenges


• Having the authority to determine how things are done


• Being able to advance in your career

You lose energy when you...

• Are closely supervised or micromanaged


• Are questioned or overruled


• Can't affect the outcome


• Have limited access to resources


• Perform routine, predictable tasks

At your best you can...

1. Get things done, either by yourself or as a group leader.


2. Be bold and adventurous.


3. Mobilize people to solve a problem, confront an enemy, or achieve a goal.

You can be a pioneer, a crusader, a leader.

When you are stressed out, you can...

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  Be blunt to the point of being rude. Like a tank, you run over people's feelings.


• Be hypercritical, demanding, and short-tempered.


• Make rash and reckless decisions.


• Explode when you don't get your way.

At your worst, you can be a bully, a loud mouth, a tyrant.

To be your best..

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  Take time to gather information and think through the consequences of your decisions.


• Instead of just announcing your decision, explain your reasoning.
  


• Consult others, respect their input, and keep them informed.
  


• Cultivate patience. See the value of cooperation.

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How to RECOGNIZE a D personality type...

They tend to be active, extroverted, and always in a rush.
They speak loudly, interrupt others, and come right to the point in conversation.
They like to take charge of meetings and to set the agenda and make the rules.
They can be aggressive, blunt, and impatient.

How to WORK with a D personality type...

Be clear, specific, and to the point.
Be prepared. Present your requirements, objectives, and support material without wasting their time.
Involve them in developing a solution. Let them decide how to accomplish it and give them the freedom to do it by themselves.
Clarify the limits of their authority and available resources.
Don't back down when they attack. Take issue with the facts without confronting the person directly.

What NOT to do around a D personality type...
Chitchat. Try to develop a relationship. Approach them casually.
Waste their time.
Tell them what to do and expect them to do it.
Expect them to pick up on your feelings or unspoken agenda.

- How to Manage Anger-

Are you often angry?
Do you frequently overreact?
Do you take your anger out on someone other than the person you’re angry with?
Do you hold grudges, pout, or sulk?
Do you stay angry for a long time?
Are you scared of your anger?
Are other people scared of your anger?
Does your anger negatively affect the people you live or work with?
Do you ever get violent when you’re angry?

If you answered yes to two or more of these questions, you may have a problem with anger. And anger may be keeping you from communicating effectively.Anger is one of the most primal and complex feelings in the range of human emotions. Although it is neither good nor bad, its misuse causes a great deal of suffering:

Undermining trust, loyalty, and teamwork
Destroying relationships
Creating a hostile environment
Lowering productivity
Contributing to health problems
Incurring legal expenses
Contributing to violence

The problem with anger, as Aristotle observed over 2,500 year ago, is this: “Anyone can become angry — that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way — this is not easy.”Anger does three things.
It alerts us to a problem. It’s like a siren, warning us of a threat to our safety or to the safety of those we care for.
It focuses our attention. When we’re angry, we have trouble thinking about anything else.

It gives us energy. Anger floods the bloodstream with chemicals that turbocharge the body and prepare it to take action.

--Sexuality and---Sexual Disorders--

Sexual disorders are like people -- they come in all shapes, sizes, and kinds. A sexual disorder doesn't mean something is "wrong" with you, only that you're experiencing the kind of issue that can suddenly affect anyone, at any time in their lives, for any reason or no reason whatsoever. While many sexual issues can be traced back to a physical problem or a sudden change in one's life circumstances, many sexual disorders' causes are not well-known or understood. Keep in mind as you read through this section that sexuality exists on a continuum. A concern only rises to the level of a "sexual disorder" if it is causing the person a great deal of distress in their life, and they would like to rectify the behavior or problem. Some of the disorders listed below are otherwise considered healthy parts of normal human sexuality. For instance, if a person has a fetish and he or she is fine with it (and it's not causing other trouble in the person's life), then it's not considered a disorder

Here are the list:

Dyspareunia:
Recurrent or persistent genital pain associated with sexual intercourse in either a male or a female.
The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty.
The disturbance is not caused exclusively by Vaginismus or lack of lubrication, is not better accounted for by another Axis I disorder (except another Sexual Dysfunction), and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition.


Exhibitionism:
Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving the exposure of one's genitals to an unsuspecting stranger.
The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning

Female Sexual Arousal Disorder:

Persistent or recurrent inability to attain, or to maintain until completion of the sexual activity, an adequate lubrication-swelling response of sexual excitement.
The disturbance causes marked distress or interpersonal difficulty.
The sexual dysfunction is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (except another sexual dysfunction) and is not due exclusively to the direct physiological effects of a substance (e.g., a drug of abuse, a medication) or a general medical condition.


Fetishism:
Over a period of at least 6 months, recurrent, intense sexually arousing fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors involving the use of nonliving objects (e.g., female undergarments).

The fantasies, sexual urges, or behaviors cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

The fetish objects are not limited to articles of female clothing used in cross-dressing (as in Transvestic Fetishism) or devices designed for the purpose of tactile genital stimulation (e.g., a vibrator).

Gender Identity Disorder:

A strong and persistent cross-gender identification (not merely a desire for any perceived cultural advantages of being the other sex). In children, the disturbance is manifested by four (or more) of the following:
repeatedly stated desire to be, or insistence that he or she is, the other sex
in boys, preference for cross-dressing or simulating female attire; in girls, insistence on wearing only stereotypical masculine clothing
strong and persistent preferences for cross-sex roles in make-believe play or persistent fantasies of being the other sex
intense desire to participate in the stereotypical games and pastimes of the other sex

strong preference for playmates of the other sex
In adolescents and adults, the disturbance is manifested by symptoms such as a stated desire to be the other sex, frequent passing as the other sex, desire to live or be treated as the other sex, or the conviction that he or she has the typical feelings and reactions of the other sex.
Persistent discomfort with his or her sex or sense of inappropriateness in the gender role of that sex.

--Sleep Disorders: Restless Legs Syndrome --

* I know that some of you experience this kind of disorder, sometimes i do experience it too. That's why i wanted to learn something about LEgs syndrome*





Restless legs syndrome (RLS), a familial disorder causing unpleasant crawling, prickling, or tingling sensations in the legs and feet and an urge to move them for relief, is emerging as one of the most common sleep disorders, especially among older people.





This disorder, which affects as many as 12 million Americans, leads to constant leg movement during the day and insomnia at night. Severe RLS is most common in elderly people, though symptoms may develop at any age. In some cases, it may be linked to other conditions such as anemia, pregnancy, or diabetes.



Many RLS patients also have a disorder known as periodic limb movement disorder or PLMD, which causes repetitive jerking movements of the limbs, especially the legs. These movements occur every 20 to 40 seconds and cause repeated awakening and severely fragmented sleep. In one study, RLS and PLMD accounted for a third of the insomnia seen in patients older than age 60.



RLS and PLMD often can be relieved by drugs that affect the neurotransmitter dopamine, suggesting that dopamine abnormalities underlie these disorders's symptoms. Learning how these disorders occur may lead to better therapies in the future.

"nuerosis and nuerotic"

To differentiate between neurosis and neurotic:

"Neurotic", or affected by neurosis, has come to describe a person with any degree of depression or anxiety, depressed feelings, lack of emotions, low self-confidence, .

Horney's theory is perhaps the best theory of neurosis we have,
She saw it as much more continuous with normal life than previous theorists.

Specifically, she saw neurosis as an attempt to make life bearable, as a way of "interpersonal control and coping." This is, of course, what we all strive to do on a day-to-day basis, only most of us seem to be doing alright, while the neurotic seems to be sinking fast.

Karen Horney :discerned ten particular patterns of neurotic needs.

They are based on things that we all need, but they have become distorted in several ways by the difficulties of some people's lives:

Let's take the first need, for affection and approval, as an example
We all need affection, so what makes such a need neurotic?

First, the need is unrealistic, unreasonable, indiscriminate.

For example, we all need affection, but we don't expect it from everyone we meet.
We don't expect great outpourings of affection from even our close friends and relations.
We don't expect our loved ones to show affection at all times, in all circumstances.
We don't expect great shows of love while our partners are filing out tax forms, for example. And,
we realize that there may be times in our lives where we have to be self-sufficient.

Second, the neurotic's need is much more intense, and he or she will experience great anxiety if the need is not met, or if it even appears that it may not be met in the future.
It is this, of course, that leads to the unrealistic nature of the need.

Affection, to continue the example, has to be shown clearly at all times, in all circumstances, by all people, or the panic will set in..

Self theory :

-- In terms of self images. , the self is the core of your being, your potential
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If you were healthy, you would have an accurate conception of who you are, and you would then be free to realize that potential (self-realization).
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I love Chanelle^_^

My Little Angel&_&

This is my little Angel Chanelle Del Villar. She is 8 month old.

I feel stressed and confuse